(What’s his first impression of Yeongja?) What’s your first impression of Yeongja? (Sitting so modestly) (What about Yeongja?) She looks strong. (You’re right about that) What kind of answer was that? I’m not as fat in person, am I? Pardon? He really is straight-forward. See? He’s so tactless. Whenever he gets in a fight with his girlfriend, he calls a family meeting. “Was I really wrong in this situation? Isn’t she in the wrong?” He wants us to be the judges. I don’t tell my family about the good things that happen with my girlfriend. Why not? (Why is he like this?) She just asked me, “Why is he like this?” She can’t believe her ears. Do you tell your family about kissing and getting physical with your girlfriend? No, I shouldn’t talk about that. – Why not? / – Why not talk about that? I thought you’re honest. Why not talk about that? You should talk about everything! He’s so inconsistent! Just tell us here. Imagine how curious your family is! I want to protect my girlfriend’s privacy. Right. Privacy. That’s not just for physical intimacy. I have principles though. You don’t seem that way at all. What are your principles? Family comes first before marriage, but after marriage, my wife comes first. Then, my family will come first. After marriage, I’ll treat them like strangers. Why are you so extreme? You don’t have to be so extreme like that. You can love your family and your future wife… My brother isn’t normal, is he? Can’t you do that? Your sister laughed to herself. “My brother isn’t normal, is he?” He’s weird. (I’m just being honest…) So is your problem solved if he stops talking about you to his girlfriend? I thought he just talked about me to his girlfriend, but whenever he meets any of his friends… He always talks about you? Whenever they meet me, “I heard a lot about you.” When I’m dating someone… “So, I heard about the guy you’re seeing. He does this for a living. I heard he lives here and drives this car.” – Even his car? / – That’s what they tell me. He talks too much. Yes, that’s true. (Goodness) But I never tell people things when she tells me to keep it a secret. That’s not true! When I say not to tell anyone… “My sister said not to tell anyone this, but…” Oh, come on! I want to record the conversations! Are you a parrot? Are you a recording device? No… It’s not like that. Being honest and sincere with my girlfriend… And keeping my promise with my sister… I feel like being more honest with my girlfriend. That’s how much of a loving person I am. (Oh… We didn’t ask you that) But we do you keep getting dumped? You’re all talk. (Refreshing) He talks so much at home too. He always asks, “Mom, what’s Yeomyeong up to?” “She’s sleeping.” He comes and stands by my bed and starts talking about his day. (I feel like my ears would bleed) When you’re lying down in bed… “So this is what happened to me today.” I come out from the bathroom after a shower to see him waiting right outside. He’s in front of the bathroom door? Yes, he talks from there. “Hey, big news! This is what happened.” He always has big news. (He always has big news to talk about) Why is everything such big news? I don’t know. (That sounds rough) I bet your parents are concerned too. Let’s see what they think. I imagine they’re frustrated. Let’s meet the parents. Hello, ma’am. Hello. Good to be here. Are you worried about your son, ma’am? I’m not sure if it’s so serious that he should be here. But after hearing about it over and over again… Maybe this isn’t such a small problem. Things like this keep happening, so I came up with a solution. I told him to just stop talking completely. That’s what I told him, but I guess it isn’t working. So you know about this too. Did your son always brag to you about his sister when he was very young? He went to his sister’s room as soon as he woke up. He’d touch her face and her hand. He called Yeomyeong a beautiful princess. “Please grow up so you can listen to me.” (The brother’s big plan) He’s been bragging about her since he was a kid. Their mother brought a few old photos. Let’s take a look. (So adorable) How cute! (Stuck to each other) – They’re always together. / – So adorable. (So happy) They’re always together. Gosh! (One second before kissing) That’s when she started putting up with him. He has her on his back. They seem so close. I have a question. Why did your son start talking so much? You seem like a good speaker too, ma’am. Like father, like son. Your husband talks a lot too? My husband talks so much that it’s tiring. I don’t think I talk that much. My wife said that I talk too much, but if you look at an example… – You do talk a lot. / – You talk a lot. Typhoon Danas hit us recently. It was a category 5 typhoon. He said category 5. I could just say to lock the windows, but… Typhoon Danas was named by the Philippines. Danas means “experience”. The central wind speed is this much. It’ll be weak by the time it hits Jindo.” I say things like that. Then I notice that nobody’s listening. (The father does talk too much) Who’s worse? You or your son? I think my son is worse. My dad talks a lot more. Because my dad was a government employee. The dad still has the mic to his mouth. I would come home with a bunch of stories about what happened during my day at school. (Ready to talk about his entire day!) With a ton of stories ready. (A big bag of stories) And when I’d come home, my mom would be listening to my dad talk. I feel like you should be sitting here too, ma’am. It must be rough on her too. But I can see that he really loves his sister. I bet he’s really nice to you when you’re together. I don’t think he’s that nice to me. When he wakes up he says, “What should I eat? What should I have?” – For you to fix him breakfast? / – Right. And he goes to me and asks, “What should I wear today?” “I’m wearing this and this. This t-shirt and these pants. Look.” I have to give him the okay for him to leave. Not only that, when he meets his girlfriend… “I have an anniversary coming up. Get a wallet around this price for my girlfriend.” – He wants you to buy the gift. / – Yes. (He even asked you to do that?) (I don’t get it) (You’re not really that nice to me!) You’re always bragging about your sister, so why do you keep making her do things at home? Yes, I also think that’s a concern. (What?) – All of a sudden. / – He drew the line. So how are you a good brother to your sister? I always give my sister emotional stability. She wouldn’t be here if that was true! (You’re the one that’s emotionally stable…) I could make a mistake and make my family sad. I tell my family that I’ll never become a great person, but at least they’ll never see me on the news. I think that’s good enough. We haven’t been on the news… Oh, right. I have. The two of us will stay out of this. (Got called out all of a sudden) (Yes) (Ow, my head…) It seems like you rely on your sister a lot. Is this true? I think it’s true. She’s so good at what she does. I respect her for that. And I sing. I majored in vocal music. And working in music isn’t exactly stable. I worry that I’ll be a burden on my sister later. I got a chance to talk to the CEO of a big musical entertainment agency. He complimented me a lot after my audition and the last thing he said was, “You have the voice of a lead, but you don’t look like one. I don’t think you’ll last long in this field.” That was harsh. That’s when I lost my way a bit. (Her cheerful brother had hidden hardships) Have you ever talked to someone about that? No, this is my first time telling my parents. I try not to talk about serious issues because I don’t want other people to worry. I keep those things to myself. I bet you’ve never heard him talk like this. Yes, I never knew he felt this way. How does this make you feel? I’ll just work hard and support him. – Your brother? / – Yes. (These siblings are angels) Ma’am, this is all news to you. What do you think? This is my first time hearing this. Well… (This breaks his mom’s heart) I wish he’d just tell us things like this. This is what we should be talking about. He’s always talking about stupid things. So you don’t want your sister or your parents to tell you if they’re going through a really hard time? No, I like listening to people’s problems. Right! You’re so inconsistent! Your family feels the same way. Not just your family. Everyone does. We all heard how great you think your sister is. You must also be proud of your brother for something. Can you brag about him? I’m sure you felt this, but he’s very kind. He’s not that good-looking, but… Why? He looks fine! Stop hurting his pride! He kind of looks like Tony An when he smiles. (They look so alike) No wonder he looked so familiar. He’s really good at singing. His voice… – Let’s hear him song. / – I want to hear this. (We’re curious too) (Stands) (Building up his confidence) It’ll be more touching if you close your eyes. That’s up to us! Too much information! That’s up to us! Here it comes. Let’s just close our eyes. (“Thanks” by Kim Dongryul) (He starts showing us what he’s capable of!) (His voice sounds robust as a vocal music major) (A treat for the ears) (His voice really shakes you up) ♪ I think I know why ♪ ♪ Being with you ♪ ♪ And loving you to death ♪ ♪ Is happiness someone gave me ♪ Wow! Chills! He’s good! (The audience is very impressed) I got the chills! That was great! You seem so different now! That was great! That was amazing! Even singers get nervous when they’re asked to sing on the spot. He’s so good. Thank you. Your voice is sweet. If only he was more tactful… He’d be really popular with the ladies. He looks like such a mild-mannered and gentle guy. Yeah, it’s nice to see how happy your family is. But instead of bragging, try to feel confident. “I have a great sister! I’m so happy and she’s so reliable.” And compliment your girlfriend instead. I have a question. – May I ask? / – Yes. What’s he going to ask? We haven’t gotten a question in a while. I think this is the first question we’ve gotten. I brag to my girlfriend about my sister. Then shouldn’t she think that I’m family-oriented? – Nope. / – No. You girls talk to him. No, it won’t make you seem family-oriented. She’s herself and your sister is someone else. Why do you keep comparing? If you’re truly family-oriented and you’re really close with your family, they can just sense that. You don’t need to brag. Make the other person feel that. Naturally. No need to say it with words. How about some closing words for your brother? Wait, not to your brother. To his future girlfriend. Yeah. (Embarrassed) Our family will not be hostile towards you. We want to get along with you like a big family. We’ll be really nice to you, so please stay with my brother for a long time. What a sweet sister. Yeomyeong, you know I love you, right? Whenever I feel like bragging about you, I’ll try to stop myself. I’ll try to make changes gradually. And I hope my next girlfriend ends up as my wife. (Happy ending) Let’s start with Taehun. I say it’s not a concern. I can tell how much this family loves each other. I don’t think it’s a concern. I hope you can remain close with your sister. I hope you get a pretty girlfriend and end up marrying her. (Seunghee says it’s not a concern!) If you think this is a concern, press the button! (What do the people think?) 5, 4, 3, 2, 1! (So many votes!) Time’s up! “Big Bro, That’s Enough!” Show us the votes. A lot of people voted. – How many? / – Really? 103 votes. (103 votes) “Dangerous New Marriage.” Hello. I’m a 24-year-old with a 27-year-old husband. – 24 years old? / – So young. I’m not a miss, I’m a missus. She got married early. I’ve been married for 7 years. I thought we’d be like loving newlyweds, but… “Honey, welcome home! I bet you had a hard day at work. Good job.” “One kill! Okay!” – It’s a mobile game. / – Oh, a mobile game. You can connect a keyboard sometimes. Pew, pew! “Good job, honey.” Pew, pew, pew! “I bet you’re hungry. Let’s eat.” Pew, pew, pew! “Honey! Enough with the game! Can’t you stop playing?” “Come on! I need some alone time. You’re getting on my nerves…” We’ve been married for 7 years… For 7 months. But my husband always wants alone time. “Honey. Can we go for a walk today?” “Sorry, but I’m too tired today. I want to stay in.” “Come on, honey! You always hang out by yourself. Why did you even marry me?” “Alright, I get it. Let’s get a divorce.” – What? / – So easily? I didn’t say this! This isn’t about me. – Sorry! / – This isn’t about me. It hasn’t been long since we registered our marriage. But he already said that he wants to divorce me over 10 times. Why does he keep saying that? Please yell at my husband. This is what she wrote. He’s addicted to gaming. The husband is 27 and the wife is 24. Sejeong, how old are you? 24. So you understood. 24. – I was born in 1996. / – 24. Sejeong, when do you want to get married? In my late-30s after doing plenty of work. – That’s too soon. / – 40? – That’s too soon? / – Way too soon! Everyone gets married later these days. It’s early for Yeongja. Let’s bring out our guest. (Whose husband always wants a divorce?) (Park Yeeun) (She’s our age! Welcome!) You’ve been married for only 7 months, but he’s talked about divorce 10 times already? We registered our marriage January this year. We met in college. – A campus couple. / – Yes. – I was the upperclassman. / – What? How dare he ask an upperclassman for a divorce? What are you talking about? That’s so outdated. A couple shouldn’t talk about divorce like that. It’s not something you talk about casually. But he brings it up so easily, which is upsetting. – Of course. / – He shouldn’t say that. Why does he keep asking for a divorce? He doesn’t think he gets enough time for himself. But I don’t think so. He gets out from work at around 7 p.m. Then he goes to the LAN center for 3 to 4 hours. – He stops at the LAN center first? / – Yes. He’s at the LAN center for over 10 hours on off days. Over 10 hours? What does he do when he isn’t gaming? He’s on his phone playing mobile games. (He plays more games than you) When does he bring up divorce? Give us an example. “Honey, time for dinner.” “I want a divorce!” Is it like that? Whenever I want to talk to my husband when he’s spending his alone time and we end up fighting, he brings up divorce. It’s not even anything special. I just want to hear about his day. Like what he had for lunch. Things like that. But he won’t even… (No wonder she’s upset) – What’s your husband’s name? / – Lee Seungjun. – Seungjun. / – Yes. One guy is all smiles. (Who’s the husband that always wants a divorce?) Do you understand why your wife is concerned? Sometimes I do and sometimes I don’t. But I do bring up divorce often, so I do feel bad about that. It seems like he speaks a bit differently from us. Can you please tell us… I’m completely deaf in one ear. I have a level 4 hearing impairment. You have difficulty hearing. That’s why I’m so inarticulate. I get nervous too. Just speak freely. So anyway, why do you keep asking for a divorce? (We will never forget about the concern) I think it just comes out when I get annoyed. When someone tries to talk to me when I’m gaming, I get annoyed and things slip out. (I just wanted to talk) Why not say something else besides, “I want a divorce”? “Let’s use separate rooms!” “Why don’t you play a game too?” Or, “I love you!” (That’s the right answer) Then she’d let you play games all the time. (Just thinking about it makes her happy) Do you keep asking for a divorce because she prevents you from gaming or is there another reason? There’s a different bigger reason. – Gaming is one… / – Oh, really? My wife is on the obsessive side. And I’m getting sick of it. She calls me around 10 times a day. Our calls can last up to 5 to 6 hours. – What? / – What? Only 24 hours in a day and she calls you 10 times for 5 to 6 hours at a time? When the calls last long. And my wife tags along when I go out to meet my friends. My friends started getting sick of her too. She keeps tagging alone when I go out. My friends say, “Why is she so clingy?” After hearing all this, he should be the one sitting here. We’ll go sit up there, or you can sit here. (The tables have turned) Wouldn’t your husband be uncomfortable if you tag along when he goes to see his friends? I wouldn’t have gone if he said something. I’d just let him go. But nobody has ever said anything to me about that. But you should be tactful too. You should know when you shouldn’t come. You should know your place and be tactful. Yes, I guess I’m a bit tactless. I had no idea. – You just learned this now? / – Yes. Then why didn’t you tell your wife that it’s uncomfortable for you? My wife is… On the sensitive side. She gets sulky really easily and I hate that. (So that’s what he thinks) Is she obsessive in other ways? Here’s another example. When I get home from work, my wife asks me for my cell phone. She checks my contacts and calls. After she checks all that…. You should be sitting here! She does that every day. Do I not get any privacy? I feel like I don’t have any alone time. We’re relating more and more with the husband. It’s not that I’m suspicious. I said earlier that I want to talk to him more. But we never talk, so I end up checking his phone. You never talk about the little things? We never talk. I feel like my wife is by my side 24 hours a day, so I just want some alone time. Then do you play more games because you want alone time? I enjoy gaming… You like gaming a bit too much. I started playing games when I was 5. And because of my disability, I didn’t have any friends. My parents both worked, so… Before I met my wife, I played games every day for 12 to 18 hours. That’s why gaming is like my friend. – Video games were your friends. / – Yes. Is your mother a wedding consultant? (We’re reminded of this neglectful mother again) – Just in case. / – His father raised him. I get where you’re coming from. I love gaming too. How about playing games with your husband? And going to the LAN center with him. We’ve been to the LAN center together a lot. But I don’t know much about gaming. So I always watch dramas at the LAN center. And it gets boring just sitting there watching dramas. That’s why I don’t really want to go with him. And when I say I want to leave the LAN center, he brings up divorce again. He asked for a divorce at the LAN center? (He’ll bring up divorce no matter where he is) I bet that was awkward for the part-timer there. Let’s hear from a third party that knows them well. We have a friend here. I get why his wife is concerned. He doesn’t listen to her when she talks to him. The LC is even worse. For the LC… He means LAN center. He has spent all night at the LAN center. That’s dangerous. He has stayed for 2 to 3 days in a row. How do you know that? Were you there too? Did you know that your friend is always asking his wife for a divorce? Yes. I heard him say mutual divorce twice and he tried to break up with her 8 times when they were dating. Why do you have all the details? It’s funny that he knows all this. Are you a lawyer? – He’s trying to mediate. / – Is he a mediator? How do you know all the details? Does your friend tell you everything? His wife tells me. She has nobody else to complain to. (I talk to him because I’m frustrated) What do you think of his married life? He’s the only one working, so there are a lot of expenses. He’s the only one that works? Right now, yes. Pardon me for asking, but what do you do? I work at a distribution center. Is it physical labor? Yes, that’s right. It’s very stressful and a strain on my body. You don’t work at all? I should work too, but I took time off from school. I’m currently looking for a job. But actually… (Actually…) Actually, we’re living in a study room. A study room? Because we’re not really well-off right now. (At a loss for words…) – Only 20 square meters. / – 20 square meters? That sounds suffocating. And those study rooms have a shared kitchen. A shared kitchen. So it’s hard to even cook a meal. That’s why we end up eating at the convenience store. (A shocking meal for newlyweds) We eat two meals a day at most. We often eat just one meal. (It’s hard for them to even eat) And my husband has high blood pressure. He has to eat healthy. My blood pressure is 160 to 190. It’s been like that since I was 19. That’s when I started taking medication. But I had to stop taking medication because we can’t afford it. (He shouldn’t stop taking his medication) I’ve passed out once. (Sad) Do your parents know that you rarely eat and your husband is unwell? My mom was really against this marriage. He has high blood pressure and he’s partially deaf. My mom didn’t want me to marry a sickly man. So she was worried and against our marriage. Now his parents are against us too. (Everyone is against this marriage…) They don’t know our situation. I never told them. They’ll find out once this airs? Yes. – They know you’re married, right? / – Yes, they do. So we didn’t have a wedding. We just took wedding photos at a studio. (How unfortunate) (Their parents were against this marriage) Their parents were against it, so they probably didn’t come to the photo shoot. Let’s congratulate them like we’re wedding guests. Great photo! (It’s late, but congratulations on your marriage) (We just want to be happy…) It was just you two when you went to the studio? – Just us two. / – Why didn’t your friend come? Yeah, why? You call yourself a friend? I was busy that day. Now that’s a real friend. (They’re really good friends) A lot of people are probably thinking that they must really be in love to get married so soon. But I bet they also want to know why you got married so early when your parents were against it. It was hard being at home since I felt lonely, worried and sad. – At home? / – Yes, at my house. I’m not really on good terms with my mom. She’s very gruff with me. She rarely compliments me. I felt like I was living like a puppet. It was frustrating? I wanted to make a family for my mom to see. It’s the same with my family. My dad is always nagging me. 2 hours is short for him. He can go on for around 4 hours. That’s like going to work. So I could relate to my wife and we fell for each other. You had the same concerns. Yes, that’s right. That’s why I feel even worse. You managed to get married… You can’t even tell your parents this stuff because it would hurt your pride. I don’t want to be timid in front of them. – Not anymore. / – Not in front of my mom. Especially not in front of your mom? No… It’s not about the results, it’s the process. You’re here for a better life. As someone your age, I think you have a lot on your plate. Being married is hard. You’re at an age where you could still be living with your parents. But you left to get married which became a burden on you. She’s the same age as Seunghee, but Seunghee doesn’t know the world yet. She’s always coming up with new skills. She could be like a female Peter Pan. She won’t grow up. But for me, I never tell my mom when I’m having a hard time. (We didn’t know this was a concern) (Worried) You get timid in front of your mom and you want to show her that you’re doing fine. You said you always feel that way. I always feel that way too. I never go home when I have a holiday. It just feels like a burden. I don’t want them to see me struggle. I’m still not satisfied with myself. So it’s always uncomfortable being around them. That’s why this is a bit different, but I get it. You feel the same things. When we first heard this story, it sounded like a concern because the husband seemed like a gaming addict. But now I have a lot on my mind. You must feel responsible as the breadwinner. One time, we went to eat at the convenience store, I looked and my wife and felt sad because… She didn’t have to marry me and live such a hard life. She could’ve married a better man. Maybe I should let her go. That’s what… That’s what came to mind. That’s why you bring up divorce? Yes, that’s why… I feel terrible. (He wants to treat her better, but he can’t…) (So he asks for a divorce) Was there a field you wanted to pursue when you were in college? – Social work. / – Nice! Why not just get the license? I’m so busy with work and I can’t afford the classes. I’m always working overtime. Why not study for the license instead of gaming? That’s when you can study. I’m thinking about being a social worker too. That’s great! For now… I don’t want to be a contract worker. I want to be a regular employee at a stable job. I’m considering going back to school. I want to try a bunch of things and then pursue social work. (He notices something) From hearing you two talk, you want to do this and that. It sounds like you want to try a bunch of things. But the most important thing is to act on it. That’s what I feel is most important. (You can try something first and worry later) Your mother will never rub it in if you tell her that you’re struggling. No parent would do that. They’ll be thrilled if you’re living happily and it’ll break their hearts if you’re struggling. You don’t have to pretend you’re doing fine. Tell your husband what you want from him. Actually… I’m so thankful. I get frustrated when you’re gaming and I want to talk to you. So I wish you’d listen. And I want to show both of our parents that we’re living happily. So… Let’s try to work hard at life. Let’s go! How about saying hi to your mother? Mom… I’m sorry about everything. I still have some resentment towards you, so I’ll visit you as soon as I get over it. I love you, mom. Please be honest with your wife. I know I’m lacking, so thanks for being energetic and staying with me. I just… Want to thank you for staying with me. (He gets choked up and hesitates) I’ll… (She’s about to cry too) Cut down on the gaming. And try to focus on you more when you talk to me. So let’s try to get along. Swear to us that you’ll never bring that up again. Don’t ever talk about divorce. Wil you talk about divorce again? – What will you say instead? / – I’ll never say it again. (This, this) I’ll tell her I love her instead. (We’re rooting for you two) Alright, Seunghee. He already knows what to do. I want to give them courage. Back at you, Seunghee. Yooa. I also say it’s not a concern. It’s okay to be weak in front of your parents at times. I think you’re both still young enough to do that. This is not a concern. I say it’s a concern. I feel like you two will fight later if nobody votes. “I told you it wasn’t a concern!” If you think this is a concern, press the button. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1! No more votes! Let’s see how many votes they got. Currently, 1st place has 161 votes. Will this get over 100? (How many people relate to this concern?) 93 votes. (93 votes) So today’s winner is “Find the Mother of My Kids”! The winners get a cash prize. Congratulations! Until the day Korea has no concerns… Hello Counselor will be rooting for you all! – Thank you! / – Thank you!