Italy vs. USA | Weddings

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  • Hanno sbagliato la traduzione Tia! Nei sottotitoli dicono che il Common Law si basa sul Presidente e non sui PRECEDENTI ahahah

  • In Italy You can spend years looking for a good job….and finally fail the search…and dedice to move abroad…. due the ridiculous political class in charge in the last 15 years.

  • SO YOU ARE SAYING THAT IF YOU GET MARRIED IN ITALY YOUR LAST NAME DOESN'T CHANGE AUTOMATICALLY WOW!! THATS COOL!! (PLEASE SOMEONE CORRECT ME IF I'M WRONG )

  • un consiglio senza criticarti, quando fai questi video dove parli tanto e fai differeze fra usa e italia metti anche delle immagini ogni tanto 😊

  • gli italiani in germania hanno mooooltissima fede in Dio e il matrimonio è sempre bellissimo ed emozionante con un enorme famiglia

  • banalmente: ce le vedo le nostre istituzioni a cambiare codice fiscale alla popolazione femminile… sarebbe IL C A O S… LOL

  • Mi fa sorridere vedere come cerchi di rimanere neutrale con i tuoi "interessante" per poi tradirti dicendo che per il fatto del cognome "per questa volta gli italiani siano stati più intelligenti ed efficienti". Ahahah, voi "esportatori di democrazia" avete sempre la presunzione di credervi nel giusto. XD

  • I spent 300euro on my wedding! LOL 2 guests (me and my husband), no witnesses, dress made by my mom. good but affordable restaurant and that's it! Defo not a milestone for us! We like to think the best day of our life has still to come and we live every day with that thought in mind, enjoying every single moment and trying to be happy every day!

  • Come sarebbe a dire "ci si sposa per la prima volta una sola volta nella vita"? Per la prima volta? Già sai che divorzierai ancora prima di sposarti? Ma allora perchè sposarsi?

  • My husband and I never go to church, we don't pray etc but we got married in a church. We live in a small town and people from Europe come to visit our beautiful church so since we had the chance to have this beautiful location we decided to have the ceremony there, and after we went to a castle to have lunch.

  • Not true at all that laws in Italy makes it more difficult not to have a Catholic wedding . My parents married 40 years ago at the city hall without any complications whatsoever , it wasn't very common back then , but some people did , now it's getting commoner and commoner . The fact most people get married in church is more a cultural thing , like a tradition , the idea of the beautiful church, the white dress , the priest ecc ecc . But has nothing to do with the laws being against weddings at the city Hals , we are free to get married in both places .even agnostic people in here get married in churches . So not much of a religious thing , more a tradition .

  • Honestly, I don't get this thing that you take your husband's last name when you get married. Like, why. Why would I give up my name? What does my husband's name have more than mine? He's lucky enough he's gonna give his name to our kids lol

  • lol In my culture the wife doesn't take the husbands surname & neither do their kids. I always have gotten questions like: are you adopted, did your mom get remarried?

  • È vero per noi il matrimonio è un momento sacro! È un momento di unione spirituale tra due persone e io non sono molto d'accordo per quanto riguarda quei matrimoni sfarzosi e costosissimi, non è una gara, è un giorno tuo e della persona che vuoi al tuo fianco per tutta la vita. Io sono del sud (di Napoli precisamente) e tutto quello che fa vedere nel "boss delle cerimonie" é solo per il 50% della popolazione partenopea, io non ho mai partecipato a quei matrimoni e sono andata a matrimoni! Io non vorrei un matrimonio per impressionare gli altri ma per stare bene con mio marito, con i miei gusti e i suoi, anche perché la gente giudicherà sempre.

  • OMG and my name is Matija 😍 actually it's same (pronounce is the same) and it's the male and the female name in Croatia (more male but I'm female) you are my namesake 💚

  • You know you can wear any dress you like even for the ceremony in church! It's not ideal for your back and shoulders to be bare but nowadays most priests wouldn't really have a problem with it..especially if you wear a veil..I had a strapless dress and it was fine 🙂

  • Hi Tia, I like your channel very much! 🙂
    I am italian (from close to Milan, Sondrio) and I live abroad from 2 years and you are very right when you say in your videos (italyis vs usa) that things you think are very normal are totally different! I had the same experience moving in another country, and it's true as you say you get used to them little by little, and they become normal to you!
    About celebratios you are right, in Italy, expecially in the north, things are not properly recognized and celebrated enough! It's quite disappointing.. when I moved to South America I was amazed to celebrate absolutely everything lol, and I can't wait for my graduation from UNI when I'll will be properly celebrated LOL
    Please don't stop making your videos, they are very enjoyable <3

  • It's not true that you don't need to go to the city hall if you get married in a Catholic Church in Italy, nor is it true that Italians don't spend a lot of money on weddings. You also choose whether you want the "separazione dei beni" when you sign your papers in city hall.

  • When I was a young woman living in the countryside of Northern Italy in the 1990s, I've seen lots of my female friends (who didn't want to go to college) getting married around 24 years old. I chose to frequent the University and moved to Milan and there half of my new friends wanted to get married after finishing their studies and having a good ob and half of them didn't want to get married at all. I got married at 38 years old and still more than half my female friends haven't yet, some for missing of the right partner, some because they don't like the idea of marriage.
    With my partner, we decided that we wanted a civil ceremony because we are both agnostics. It was really simple to do, and 4 out of 5 our friends who got married around the same period did the same. Nowadays you can have a beautiful location even if you skip the church. In Italy, lots of beautiful ancient houses are now owned by municipalities and they get used for ceremonies. In Milan, you can marry in a beautiful hall in Palazzo Reale, decorated with floor to ceiling golden mirrors.
    We decided for a location in the Alps and, against every tradition, we left home all the relatives except for our parents and my husband' sisters. Instead, we invited our closest friends. We decided for a 10.000 budget and stayed in those boundaries.

  • I'm trying to debate if I want to marry in Italy due to my fiancé being Italian. I want to experience little of my culture even if it's like 1/12 of Italian in my family and to have him feel that I'm embracing our blended life together.

  • Per qualsiasi religione tollerata e consentita in italia, il matrimonio religioso funge anche automaticamente per quello civile. Se si sposano in chiesa cattolica 2 cristiani di credo differente, in genere si fa solo il rito cattolico e la parte civile. Per esperienza, Il matrimonio religioso più veloce che ho mai visto fu avvenuto 2-3 anni fa. tra un cattolico ed una ortodossa, essendo già sposati civilmente si è solo svolto il rito cattolico (poi mio cugino andò in Moldavia e sposò la moglie con il rito ortodosso). Una delle poche coppie che si è sposata con 3 riti….

  • anche in Italia la donna eredita il cognome del marito, aggiungendolo al proprio, conservandolo in vedovanza(salvo richiesta contraria)

  • Sono brasiliana ed ero sposata con un italiano. Abbiamo avuto due figli, ambi nati qui in Brasile e registrati qui con entrambi i nostri cognome, ossia, il mio e quello del mio marito come se usa fare da noi.. Quando siamo andati a vivvere In Italia mi sono resa conto che se miei figli erano nati in Italia porterebbero solo il cognome del mio marito e su questo io non sarei d'accordo perché sono anche figli miei, li ho portati in grembo per nove mesi, li ho allatatti fino a un ano di vita e fino ad oggi li baddo e daró per loro la mia vita .Quindi, secondo me non é giusto che un figlo porte soltanto il cognome del padre. Meno male che mio marito nonostante fosse italiano ( purtroppo é morto da undici anni ormai…davvero purtroppo perché lui era l'amore della mia vita e fino ad oggi mi manca tantissimo),lui era d'accordo con me su questo argomento. Come ci siamo sposati qui in Brasile , io , per scelta mia ho agiunto il suo cognome al mio, ma da noi é una scelta, tu puoi prendere o no il cognome del tuo marito e manttenere anche il tuo insieme che in genere sono due, quello dalla tua mamma e quello del tuo papá. Adesso qui da noi , anche i mariti se vogliono possono prendere il cognome della sposa.. Ossia , qui da noi la libertá per scegliere il cognome dopo il matrimonio é totale. Ogni uno fa come li pare , ma per regole i figli invece prendono i cognome de suoi due genitori. Complimenti per i tuoi videos Tina, mi stano aiutano molto ad imparare l'inglese e pure a farmi ricordare i bei tempi che ho vissuto a Roma.. Auguri a te e a Enrico.

  • Actually even with protestant priests you don't need to go to the townhall for the civil marriage! Grande Tia adoro i tuoi video!!!

  • What does "you only get married for the first time once"? Are you already thinking about divorce and second marriage before you've even decided the date of the first wedding?!

  • It is the same in America, church weddings have premarital counseling and it is required. In most states in Amierica common property is what what is his is hers and vice versa. If it is not in Connecticut that is the exception not the rule. You also own the debts and some courts will put it in someone who is single so if they get married the wife has to pay and can have her wages garnished. Love watching your videos, my husband and I will be traveling there in June 2018 and I am love learning the culture and language. I like to hear your culture difference video, and you boyfriend is so cute, love his personality! You are so cute together.

  • Spending $25-35,000 for a wedding (requiring the mother to take out a 2nd mortgage on her home) is the height of foolishness. So many young folks want these outlandish weddings, and yet more than 65+% of first time marriages do not last more than 5 yrs, and many far less. The marriage is over before the mother is able to pay off the 2nd mortgage she spent on the event, and the only thing left are the pictures of a 4-5 hr. party and a grandchild. I remember one wise young lady (about 25 yrs old), who took the money given to her and purchased a townhouse of her own. When her husband walked away after 1 yr, she was set and did not have to worry where she was going to live! She saved up for her $5,000 wedding, and did not spend more. She found many creative ways to make it work, and it was a lovely wedding and dinner for about 100 people.

  • sinceramente l'idea di essere sposata mi farebbe sentire vecchia…😣 io prima dei 35 non lo farei mai…

  • Tia, about the religious wedding depending if the denomination (or bettern, the religious entity) has or not an Agreement (Intesa)

  • Actually, 75% of marriege are in churches becouse is all already set up. But actually, marriege is divided in two parts: the ceremony in church, than the party elsewhere. Anyway, for anybody not religious thinking of a chatolic marriage (in Italy) there's the option of the mixed rite, when only one of the two is religious you can ask the priest to perform the rite for both, aknowledging the fact.

  • Marriage is just a document to be signed, nothing more nothing less. I dont understand why so many people put so much money on a marriage.

  • Southern Italian weddings are very expensive and very big so I guess it depends on where you are in Italy.

  • Sì, Tia ma in America si guadagna decisamente di più che qui in Italia, è folle spendere 32.000€! Io sono una che ama i matrimoni, ma davvero spendere così tanto è una pazzia!

  • 20.000 euros is the average cost of a wedding in ItslyvI believe, many spend much more depending on the number of invitees. And about the woman taking the husband’s surname I don’t see what you mean, we do take it automatically, it is adjoint to your maiden surname (while the opposite does not happen, the husband only keeps his surname)

  • Honestly whether or not I take my husband/wives (Im bi so it could be either) last name will 100% have to do with how cool their one is. If it's something like smith of Johnson….that shit boring please take mine. Also mine is pretty rare which makes life easy if u look me up or fb or something. If it's a Māori name (Im Māori and so is my very short last name) its probably cooler then mind so I'll take it.

  • I know that this video is a couple years old but I wanted to say this: I'm italian, my grandmother and her grandmother were called Mattia. It's not just a boy's name. Maybe is more common for males right now, but yeah, it's also a girl's name!
    I'm really enjoying your videos! Keep it up ♥

  • Dont give up your day job. … these vids are so pointless. No one actually cares what americans think/do/eat/wear….

  • Credo che il fatto dell’età dipenda dagli studi, non credo che qualcuno vorrebbe mai sposarsi mentre va all’università e ci sono persone che, per una ragione o un’altra, finiscono l’università anche a 30 anni

  • You can wear a backless or Shoulder less dress in a church wedding and even show your cleavage! You just put a stole on it (like a veil) for the time of the ceremony inside the church, that'it! It' not like you have to dress like a nun! and most of the people choose to get married in a church ONLY for the scenography, because let's face it, even if you live in small village the church is probably gonna be a very nice, historic building. The wedding Mass is really boring and longer than the usual 1-Hour weekly Mass but for the purpuse of the cool pictures and the solemn ceremony italians endure it 😆! Most of the italians who choose religious wedding probably don't even believe in God or anyway they stopped going to Mass after they received the Confirmation..I think that the Americans who get married in Church are waaay more religious than us.

  • 4:10 veramente io so che ci si sposa prima in comune e poi in chiesa, di solito in questo modo il matrimonio in comune è una formalità ma si deve fare

  • QUante inesattezze! Solo una … nel 2016 i matrimoni religiosi in Italia sono stati il 53% e quelli civili il 47%. https://it.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matrimonio_(ordinamento_civile_italiano)#Statistiche

  • Honestly I don't teally care, but I would like to take my future husbands surname. I mean idk, but it makes two people a family (not only this) in my opinion. They can pass it to their childern and it is just what is normal for me. I'm from Poland but currently live in US, and in poland we also take our husbands surnames. It's like the label of the family and it's just something that I would be probud of. I would love to have a last name of the love of my life that I decide to share my life with

  • Gli abiti da sposa americani sono orribili, ( guardo quel programma americano dove giovani spose provano l'abito da sposa), quelli di stilisti italiani invece sono da fabia x quanto sono belli. Davvero nel campo della moda siamo imbattibili!

  • What about bridal parties (bridesmaids and groomsmen)? They’re still a thing here in Australia but they’re definitely not part of Italian tradition, the bride and groom only have one of two witnesses each.

  • All couples married in Catholic Churches in the USA do the pre marriage course. It’s called Pre Cana and I would venture to say all Catholic couples around the world must do this. Also, 80% of marriages in the USA still take place in a church. Not specifically Catholic but in church.

  • hello Tia you are so beautiful and so knowledge of my native Land . May I marry you? Io Sono 100 x 100 Italiano ma ora vivo in Chicago.

  • Considering the rising dovorce rates of modern couples in the west, maybe forcing couples to go through premarital courses before getting married isn't such a "waste of time".

  • Da Roma in giù se non si apre un mutuo è solo perchè con i regali delle "buste" ci si paga il matrimonio che si aggira di solito sui 30-40 mila euro a volte anche di più. La spesa maggiore naturalmente è per il ristorante calcola almeno un 60/70 euro a persona,per un pranzo minimal, se vuoi fare qualcosa di più arrivi anche a 100- 150 a persona. Io non sono sposata nonostante abbia 50 anni, ma ti assicuro che il 99% delle persone qui al sud considera il matrimonio come un evento unico nella loro vita (poveri loro)

  • Cambiare cognome implicherebbe cambiare codice fiscale, con conseguenze tragiche. le donne possono utilizzare il cognome del marito per candidarsi alle elezioni

  • Ciao, dovresti tener conto però (per quanto riguarda il nome con il cognome del tuo futuro marito), che tutti penserebbero che Mattia Rossi è un uomo in tutti i casi in cui scrivi una lettera o una mail ad uno sconosciuto. Al di la di questo sei bravissima e dimostri grande acume  e sensibilità a trattare un tema difficile come le differenze culturali tra diversi popoli. un Saluto da Senigallia.

  • I grew up in a small town in the Midwest of America. I knew my husband for 8 years before we got married at 22 years old. I had my son at 23 and my daughter at 30. I do think people should wait until they have matured more before getting married. Divorce rates are high and I grew up in a divorced home. However my family is close. My dad lived across the street from me and we still do family gatherings with our parents and stepparents. It’s all about the kids in my family. Those bonds have helped me in my marriage and we tend to be more on the traditional side. We are moving to Italy in July and I enjoy your videos. I can’t wait to learn everything I can and see all the beauty and love that Italy has to offer!

  • On the contrary though, Italy is seen as the most religious country in Southern and Western Europe still. I think it's also important to take into account that the north is pretty different than the south where my family comes from (my family comes from Bari). With saying this, southern Italians are extremely religious and traditional in comparison to the north. Their Catholic beliefs are even rooted in some old school Roman beliefs like the "Mal occhio"

  • Ciao Tia… Ho iniziato a seguirti solo da poco e sto recuperando i tuoi video più "datati".
    Io mi sono sposata a 25 anni e ho delle amiche che si sono spostate ancora prima ma sì…siamo state viste come "spose bambine"!
    Io adesso vivo in Inghilterra e qua l età media (non so le statistiche ma mi baso su quello che vedo) è molto più bassa dell America… Ma devo anche dire che qui se vuoi con 1000£ ti sposi e conosco una coppia che dopo la cerimonia hanno invitato tutti al parco e ognuno si è portato il proprio cestino per il picnic! Non condivido questo modo di fare ma da una parte invidio la loro noncuranza Delle opinioni altrui!
    Io e mio marito abbiamo fatto un matrimonio semplice ma carino ma credimi che i soldi ce ne sono voluti comunque molti …ci hanno aiutato i miei genitori altrimenti non mi sarei mai messa a chiedere prestiti!
    Per quanto riguarda il fattore cognome io lo sto un po' subendo in Inghilterra perché qua non accettano che io abbia un cognome diverso da mio marito per cui per loro siamo solo Partner e non sposati! È assurdo! Ho avuto 1000 problemi per il cognome!
    Comunque mi piacciono i tuoi video e continuerò a seguirti
    È veramente stano sentir parlare di noi italiani da una voce esterna ma forse ci serve per capire che non esiste solo il nostro modo di fare e il nostro mondo! Grazie

  • I married in a castle but spent quite little – me and my wife kept the ceremony small and classy and we did our research for the dresses and mementos.

  • I've seen many comments here stating that in Italy women used to take the husband's surname until 1975. I don't think that was compulsory though because both my grandmother's have kept their surname and even my great-grandmother did. I've been doing genealogy research on my family for some time now and I've never seen anyone changing their surname, maybe just specify who the father was or who they were/had been married too.

  • Waste of time? If you want to marry in a church, it only makes sense the priests wants you to know what a Christian marriage is. A church is not just another hall that you can book, it has a meaning.

  • Americans are suckers to spend a lot of money on a wedding … a wedding isn't an accomplishment, neither is having a baby.

  • Idk why Italians on here from Italy are trying to like undermine their religious roots 😂 if you look up stats, Italy has more Catholic churches compared to any other country and 74% are practicing over other major Catholic countries like Spain and Portugal. Also, what Italians from Italy almost seem to "forget" is that even if parts of the country are less practicing Catholic, the Catholic faith, beliefs, and way of life are so ingrained in the culture that it will NEVER be erased. This is true for many Catholic countries like the way they celebrate Christmas and many other holidays. The things they value, the way they carry out events, and many more. The way they value the mother yet there is patriarchy, the way the value the elderly and all. It's palpable everywhere. So, yes you are WAY MORE RELIGIOUS THAN AMERICA. And THE SOUTH IS TRADITIONALLY EVEN MORE RELIGIOUS.

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