My Life With Half A Body: Living Differently

My Life With Half A Body: Living Differently


Well, my birth defect
affects me every day. When people see me they’re like,
“Wow, that’s the half woman!” Or, “She has no legs!” Hi, buddy. Hi. Hello, Luke. I’m very fun and outgoing. I, um, don’t let anything stop me
from doing what I want. I go for my dreams and I live it. It means I was born with
a shortened spine and I have to walk on my hands. One in a million people have it… ..cos it’s rare. My disability affects me
outside of the house, because I would have to use
a skateboard to get around. And I would either have to use
a chair or a power chair to get around, so I normally
can’t really do a lot of things like other people can. I have my nice, little shoes
that I wear inside and out of the house, so I don’t hurt my hands. I don’t want to fall. What, babe? SOMEONE MUMBLES
IN THE BACKGROUND
OK. Growing up with
sacral agenesis, well… ..I always saw myself as normal. Through growing up and
through my teen years, going to high school and all
that, that’s when a lot of the bullying happened. They’d be rude, just call me
names and just be like, “Oh, you’re in the chair,” or, “You
have no legs, you’re an amputee,” or whatever.
Just, like, “Oh, dear.” Just keep on going about
my positive, little life and whatever my head thinks
inside, it just pushes all those mean people away. I’ve been doing make-up for a very
long time, ever since I was 15. It just makes me feel… ..makes me feel glamorous,
makes me feel beautiful. It makes me feel like… ..I don’t know, I just love it so
much and I’m really good at it. I first realised I was
transgender… ..my whole life. Ever since I was younger,
I wouldn’t second-guess it. It wasn’t just something that
just happened or I just woke up one day and decided, “OK, well,
let’s go ahead and start dressing up “as a girl, because you
feel like a girl.” No. I’ve always known in my heart
that I am and it’s just… ..there’s no if, ands or buts about
it. I just, I just am. I have, basically, a girl’s
mind and just a boy’s body. But now I’m enhancing it with
hormones and making my freaking body pop and make myself look fabulous. So, that’s what it’s about, right. I came out to my family when I was
15 and I finally told them, “OK, look, I’m transgender.” And my mom, she already knew. My dad… ..was nuts. He was not very happy
with my decision. He didn’t want his son to
be a woman and he couldn’t, it took him a year and we would
have arguments about that and… ..it just, it was hard for him. Well, the physical
transition, for me, what I first noticed
was my skin. I noticed that my skin
wasn’t very rough any more. I noticed that a lot of fat
distribution has been going on with my body and I started
developing breasts and, um, I had a lot of mood swings. I could eat anything, like, I used
to have an appetite, but now I have an appetite, like, crazy
and it’s just… ..sometimes I have to stop eating
for a bit, because I get so hungry and then I get a little overweight. Hey, guys, it’s me, Piyah.
I’m with my cousin. She’s in a cute, little,
uh, what is it? It’s not cute. It is, OK? We’re, like, Mario Kart
realness, right now. I just want to let all you guys
know, this goes for trans women, trans men, whatsoever, don’t… ..ever… ..put yourself down for who you are
being and who you are and your soul. And if it’s right, do it,
because you know what? I am tired of having to validate
who I am. I don’t give a fuck. I’m not trying to fool nobody. I am trying to trick
nobody, whatsoever. I’m a beautiful, transgender woman
and my name is Piyah Martell. Maintaining relationships
with my birth defect have, have had their ups and downs. People judge me. I don’t care what people think. My first impression of him was… ..”What am I getting myself into?” But then, he has this,
like, charm, that I just was
really attracted to. Just like every normal
couple, we fight, we argue, we bicker… ..and go through our little temper
tantrums here and there, but we always come together
and we make it work. And that’s the thing about
relationships, is you communicate. Are you pouring this on top? Yeah, it’s going to go
on top of the rice. Oh, this and this? The rice is a little too high, baby. Ow! Drop me. She’s a very beautiful girl. She’s sweet, she’s nice. And, uh, she’s, I don’t know,
she’s wonderful. And she just, you know,
brightens up the day. She’s everything.
I call her my angel. My birth defect has not got in the
way of physical, intimate ways with my husband.
I think it’s just fine. Well, in the future I would
definitely like to get top and bottom surgery. That would be in the future,
for I can manifest my life better. Even though I do love myself for,
you know, everything now. I, kind of, trained my brain to
really just be happy with right now. For it not to get too stressed out.
SHE LAUGHS Because it does take time,
it takes time. What do I dream of being
in the future? Being able to travel the world and to make the world
a better place. It’s allowing everybody to see me
for me and to know that it’s OK to be yourself and
to be who you are.

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