Parents Tell Stepparents What They Really Think

Parents Tell Stepparents What They Really Think


-So, Tara and I were
married for seven years. And two years
into it we had Nakhjavani. -You know we had
a few good years. I just think that at some point you know we stopped
watering the plant. -And you with anything a plant, if you could poison on it,
it’ll just wilt and die. -My parents have been together
for 45 years. Divorce was never
an option for me. -So these were painful times,
hard. -It’s an awful feeling
to not be with your child every day of their life. -At some point
she started seeing somebody after we were done. -Yeah, at the time
of the divorce I didn’t consider Jamey
finding another wife. -That triggered a lot
of emotions. Who was going
to be around my son? -What’s up? How’re you doing?
Are you okay? -The idea of Jason being a
co-parent was the easiest thing. I mean, he’s completely
born to be a father. -So, for me as Nakh’s stepdad when I introduce him,
I never call him my stepson. Like this is my son,
and I let Nakh know immediately when I married his mom
like you’re my son. You’re my blood. -He fully embraces him. He goes to his basketball games. He goes through his homework. Gets — Gets —
I saw him cry once when my son wasn’t telling
the truth about something. I saw Jason, like, be hurt.
Like, he’s invested in him. -Like, we play around a lot, but a lot of it at this stage especially being 12 and 13 is like how you move through
this world as a man. -Jason has this way about him
that’s very — something I don’t have
which is like structure. -By the grace of God
I was blessed with a new husband and Jamey was blessed
with a new wife. -I don’t care who these other
people are with my kids. It’s just not me. So I love Jamey
and I love Natasha, but it’s not me,
and so that’s my struggle. Like that’s where I fall apart
all the time. Nakh’s relationship
with Natasha is great. He just has a huge heart
and kind of accepts a lot of people into his world
and she makes it really easy. -Take me to the water -Music is a big part
of this family. It just keeps it really
fun and light and loving, too. You know, and I think
that’s a big way of how Nakh and I have bonded. Being kind of of like
a new friend in his life as well as a new parent
in his life but still keeping it
loving and fun. -One of the things
I’m going to do today is I wrote Jason a letter which opened up a lot of stuff
about how I feel about him as a man and as a father
to Nakh, a co-parent. -I haven’t had the opportunity
to really sit with Natasha and thank her for
all the incredible work that she does with my son. She needs to hear it
and she needs to know. -How sweet! Aww! [ Laughs ]
You’re so sweet. -Hi. -I was not expecting that. -You’re awesome. -It’s been a long day,
a long day. -So, I wrote a letter to you
and I want to read it. -Aren’t you supposed
to be someone I hate? -Aren’t you supposed
to be someone that challenges my own manhood? -This new woman in my life. The new pair of arms
that my son would be cuddled in. I knew I was not being replaced, but you’re only adding more love
into Nakh’s life. -You’re a man of integrity,
a man of skill. A beautiful husband. -You’re so kind,
tenderhearted woman who I could clearly see
loves Nakh from her core. -I admire you
and I’m grateful for you. -There’s the saying thing
about happy wife, happy life. But I also believe
that your love for Jamey makes for him
a better dad for Nakh. He’s so lucky to have you. -[ Voice breaking ] I know how
powerful it is for a boy to see that his mother is loved because that’s how he’s going
to treat his wife. And you’re doing that for him. You’re doing the things
I couldn’t do. And love you for that man. I’m supposed to not
love you for that, but I do. -And thank you for being
who you are and for loving my boy. You are truly already
a wonderful mother and our journey has only begun. I love you. -I love you, too. -Thanks. -This lovely surprise
is so sweet, thank you. -Thank you. -My man.
I just want you to have that. You ain’t got to say nothing,
man. Just want you to feel my love. -Thank you -Nakh has always
wanted a big family. One with lots
of brothers and sisters and now look what has happened
for him.

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