Rules for civil engagement: How to talk with someone unlike yourself | Jon Zimmerman

It seems to me that in order to be civil, you do have to follow a certain set of basic rules about human dialogue and discourse. So if you begin with a statement, and I say, “You’re a blankety-blank”, that’s not going to further the discussion. It’s probably going to end it. A more civil […]

Why Comfort Food Makes Everyone Feel Happy

Think about your favorite foods – what comes to mind? Grandma’s peach cobbler? Buttery mashed potatoes smothered in gravy? A cheesy pizza with your favorite toppings? Ooh, How about a Lobster tail with melted butter! Hey I’m pretty comfortable with that! Obviously, we love these comfort foods because they taste good; but are there deeper […]

7 Skills to Help Friends & Family Through Difficulty

I don’t know what to do! Have you ever uttered those words? Perhaps a friend shared with you how their wife had left them or a classmates parents died suddenly or maybe the kid that hangs out with your children just isn’t himself anymore There are a lot of hurting people all around us and […]

Touching Your Spouse for Science (Demo), adapted from “Experiments for Newlyweds”

SHAUN: Hi, I’m Shaun Gallagher. TANYA: I’m Tanya Gallagher SHAUN: and today we’re going to do an experiment that comes from my book, Experiments for Newlyweds: 50 Amazing Science Projects You Can Perform With Your Spouse. Now, we are not newlyweds. We’ve been married for … TANYA: Eleven … SHAUN: Eleven years, but the nice […]

Daily List: Compliment Your Spouse

TO THE 9:00 HOUR, WE MEET A PAIR OF LOVEBIRDS CELEBRATING 66 YEARS OF MARRIAGE. I ALWAYS WANT TO KNOW WHAT THE SECRET IS. WE ARE ON THIS TOPIC, THEY SAY IT IS LITTLE THINGS THAT KEEPS COUPLES HAPPY. KIDS, MONEY AND HEALTH CAN GET IN THE WAY. A WELL-TIMED COMPLEMENT GOES A LONG WAY […]

The Unstoppable Power of Letting Go | Jill Sherer Murray | TEDxWilmingtonWomen

Translator: Phuong Cao Reviewer: Peter van de Ven Letting go can make you unstoppable. I know because I let go of a relationship and reclaimed my life. And I know that letting go can create the best of change for each and everyone of you. Let me tell you a story. When I was 41, […]

Understanding Your Spouse’s Emotions – David and Jan Stoop Part 2

she might come to bed and say you’re gonna pray and I say nope cuz I’m still mad she says well I am and she never you never pray you’re your partner into shame and she would pray by the time she was done praying my heart is softened that I prayed welcome to the […]

Relationships Are Hard, But Why? | Stan Tatkin | TEDxKC

Translator: Sarah El_Gayyar Reviewer: Denise RQ Relationships are difficult. Everybody knows that. Most people think it’s because of money, sex, kids, work, or who picks up the socks. Some people think it’s because we’re just not right for each other, or we don’t have enough in common. Look, it’s not just you, or him, or […]

Understanding Your Spouse’s Emotions – David and Jan Stoop Part1

and he said well I think I said I’ll tell you what you think tell me what you feel he couldn’t you couldn’t say a word and so I started through a list of feelings do you feel this do you feel this and he could think a minute and say yes and say no […]

Narcissist Hates Happy People and Holidays

I'm Sam back Nina and I'm the author of malignant self-love narcissism revisited holiday blues are a common occurrence even among the mentally sound in the narcissist holidays provoke a particularly virulent strain of pathological envy the narcissist is jealous at others for having a family or for being able to celebrate lavishly or for […]