Is there something else your mom doesn’t allow other than playing with friends? I don’t have a mobile phone. – What? / – You are in eighth grade. – Elementary schoolers have them. / – Why don’t you give her a mobile phone? – You have a lot of mobile phones. / – Give her one. – Give her a slide phone. / – Go on. Why don’t you have a mobile phone? She says children who play games on mobile phones – look indecent. / – Indecent? That’s why she doesn’t buy me one. However, she has games in her mobile phone. – She plays games. / – Yes. Don’t you need a mobile phone for school these days? That’s right. It’s a necessity. My classmates and teachers have a group chatroom. – A group chatroom. / – Yes. It’s inconvenient because I don’t have a mobile phone. It keeps her from talking to her teacher. It’s how I raise my children. It’s a lousy way. You won’t feel uncomfortable if you don’t have smartphones from the start. You go crazy if you go without after owning it. Until my children become university students… Your son doesn’t have one either. – No, he doesn’t. / – Really? You only work at the hair salon. Why do you need a smartphone? That’s different. – Why do you play games? / – Why? – I… / – That’s bad education. Are you a game fanatic? – Are you a game fanatic? / – She must be. – She is. / – You’re a game and TV fanatic. You’re a fanatic. (She’s a fanatic mother.) She also said I’m not allowed to have a boyfriend, and that I can only get one when I go to college. Can’t you have a boyfriend in secret? I don’t have time. – She doesn’t have time. / – Right. – No. / – She can meet people only if she goes out. Did anyone like you? Of course not. Look at my face. – Why not? / – You’re pretty. You’re pretty and cute. She lost confidence because her mom makes her work. She educates her in ways that I don’t understand. What do you hope for your daughter in the future? Based on my life experience… What kind of experience? I lived a normal life. My mother let me do whatever I wanted. Her priority in life is her children. While I was growing up, I did everything I wanted. Do you think that’s the wrong way to raise a child? – That’s right. / – Why? If my mother didn’t trust me so easily and had put some restrictions, I might have studied harder. Then shouldn’t you let your daughter study? She studied very hard at the salon until last year. At the salon? Yes. She studied hard and got good grades. Since last November, she complained about studying. I think she’s hit puberty. She doesn’t want to study, so she keeps complaining – of having too much work. / – How could you say that? – She was fine before. / – Now that she hit puberty, you should try to be more understanding. You haven’t given her – a chance to focus on studying. / – That’s right. I’m not sure if she’ll study. Do you prefer that she keeps working if she doesn’t want to study? I think that’s better. Ma’am, you never gave her a chance to study. Do you want to go to a private institute after school? – Yes. / – With friends? If your mom lets you study at a private institute, by how much can you raise your grades? I can get in the top 20 rank of my school. – Can you do that? / – Yes. I don’t want to send her to private institutes. – Why not? / – Her brother went to one, but his grades got worse. – That’s your son. / – That’s different. She’s never been to one. It was very difficult for him to raise his grades again. Your son and your daughter – They’re different. / – are completely different. I’m not sure yet. (Give her a chance.) Does Dad say anything about you studying at the salon? Dad tries to comfort me. It’s just – Mom. / – He gives in to her, doesn’t he? Yes. Are other members of your family here? I asked Dad and my brother to come, but they refused since it’s only my problem. – They won’t come. / – They show her no interest. In case you think that I’m lying, I invited two regular customers. Regular customers? – They aren’t your brothers? / – Really? – They aren’t her brothers. / – I thought they were. I thought they were her brothers. I thought so, too. – Me, too. / – Me, too. Did you invite them yourself? Goodness. I’ve never introduced myself to them. Since Mom always orders me to sweep the floor, and to do this and that, they call me Ms. Dokyung. – Ms. Dokyung? / – What? Ms. Dokyung? Bring me some water, Ms. Dokyung. – She’s so cute. / – Ms. Dokyung. How do you usually call her? I call her, “Ms. Dokyung.” – Gosh. / – That’s funny. Do you understand her worry? Yes, I do. When I see Ms. Dokyung always at the salon cleaning, – I feel bad for her. / – Of course. How would you feel in her shoes? I’d have quit already. Her puberty can get worse. I hope her mother will be more understanding. How did you start going to their salon? I’m friends with her brother. You keep calling her Ms. Dokyung. Do you have feelings for her? She’s great, but I don’t have feelings for her. Although you didn’t have much time to study, did you get good enough grades? Mom said she’ll make me a hairdresser otherwise. (Make her a hairdresser?) She decided her daughter’s future. You must be frustrated. Your own opinion is important. Do you know what you want to be? – I want to be a TV producer. / – TV producer? – That’s impressive. / – He’s a producer. – Say hello. / – That’s right. (It’s nice to meet you.) She’s so cute. You have to study hard to be a producer. Isn’t your wife also a producer? Some people don’t know I’m married, so be quiet. – Gosh, I’m sorry. / – He lost his mind. Do you want to produce dramas or documentaries? – I really like variety shows. / – Variety? Ma’am. What you say may be reasonable if she has no dream, but her thoughts are different. I already know. Being a TV producer isn’t easy. – You should give her a chance. / – Why can’t she be? Why don’t you believe in her? She doesn’t study hard enough. – Give her a chance. / – That’s your perspective. – Ma’am. / – Before I give her a chance, I should see her study hard first… Why is there a condition? – Why must you set limits? / – You didn’t even let her. I’m not sure if she’s capable. You understand it the wrong way. You didn’t provide an environment where she can study. She might’ve helped you willingly in the beginning, but she’s getting tired because it’s prolonged. Moreover, she’s still young. Please consider what comes first. You should stop making her work whether she studies hard or not. – You should stop making her work. / – Right. At her age, she needs to be with friends and play. She wants to study and go to private institutes. She thinks she can’t do anything because of work. Once she enters high school, she can’t work anyway. – Ma’am. / – She doesn’t want to work. Violence isn’t always physical. Doing something you hate is worse than being spanked. She doesn’t want to do it. What you’re doing is an act of violence. She treats her daughter unfairly compared to her son. – Right. / – That’s right. – What do you think? / – I can sense it. Usually, she calls my brother handsome, but she calls me ugly. I’d understand if he actually is. You’d make great variety shows. You have talent. When she goes shopping for my clothes, she only buys clothes for my brother. – Not yours? / – No. When my brother’s school needs a proctor, she volunteers to help without hesitation. When my school needs a proctor, she complains. – She discriminates unconsciously. / – Right. As I mentioned, my son is a junior in high school. He’s so busy that I hardly see him. You call your son “my son”, but you don’t call her “my daughter”. That’s because she’s… My daughter is in front of me. My son isn’t here. What about volunteering as a proctor? That’s because the new principal at my daughter’s school… She suddenly calls her “my daughter”. You don’t have to say, “my son” even if he isn’t here. Why did you say that? You called her “my daughter”. Her principal used to teach at my high school. He complains a lot because of the Kim Youngran Act. What’s your reason for mentioning that? I’m serious. Why did you only buy clothes for your son when you went to shop for hers? He looks good in most clothes. Excuse me? The things you say – You discriminate against her. / – are discriminatory. I can’t buy clothes that look bad on her. Do you think your mom loves you? No. – Goodness. / – This is important. – That’s only your opinion. / – Please wait. What does love mean to you? Acting like my mom’s mom. – Like your grandmother? / – Yes. – Is it complimenting you? / – Yes. – Doing what you want? / – Being open. What’s most important for her is that she has no freedom. – She should be free to think. / – What would she do – with freedom? / – Come on. – There’s no one at home. / – Ma’am. Please listen. – What’s wrong with her? / – She has a dream. Don’t you want your daughter to be happier? What would make her happy? – Let her do what she wants. / – Let her. – What do you think? / – I hope she understands me. I will sweep the floor. I hope you’ll wash the equipment at the salon. Let me live my life. (Let me live my life.) – She’s asking you to let her live her life. / – Ma’am. Her life? What do you think about this? You shouldn’t laugh at her. Since she doesn’t want to work, I won’t make her. But I’d be too worried if she goes out. – It’s dangerous out there. / – No. She can meet her friends. – No, I can’t let her. / – Why not? Is your neighborhood dangerous? It’s dangerous when they hang out in groups. – You never know what will happen. / – Ma’am. – You were saying / – What about school? that she’s totally different from you. In my opinion, since you’re different, she won’t deviate. – Is that so? / – Ma’am, think about how you were when you were younger. (He gave her a gentle warning!) If you think about how you were younger, of course you’d be worried, but she’s different, so I think it’ll be okay. How about making a promise? You can let her get some extra lessons. Until you come home from work, – she’ll promise… / – She’ll get your permission. She’ll get your permission to play for just an hour. Then she’ll call you and come home right away. – She has no mobile phone. / – That’s right. It’s because she has no phone that you’re worried. Can’t you give her a phone? – If you’re so worried… / – That’s right. Honestly speaking, did our discussion show you that your mindset hasn’t been entirely right? – Right, did it? / – Be honest. It did come across my mind. – Of course. / – I was thinking about ways of how things can change. – That’s a good start. / – I hope you’ll find a way. If you want to be confident in front of your mom, you need to keep your word. Study hard, be a top student, and become a producer. – All right. / – Then you can invite your mom and film a documentary on her. (A mystery show, “About My Mom”) Say a few last words to your mom. Mom, I want to come home after school now. – What a simple wish. / – She wants to go home. How is that a wish? She wants to go home after school. – She wants to go home. / – That’s right. I also want to attend private institutions, and I want a mobile phone. Oh, dear. Don’t you love your mom? I love you, Mom. Do you want to be loved? – I love you, Mom. / – Do you want to be loved? (She cries before she realizes.) Oh, dear. You know that your mom loves you, right? It’s because she has to do everything she wants. How you live in an environment depends on you. I hope you’ll succeed and become a producer. (Show everyone how you grow up at your own will!) All right. I definitely think it’s a worry. She has a dream. You can’t talk about it so casually. Please don’t make her give up and abandon her dream. I think it’s definitely a worry. What you’re doing out of concern for Dokyung now – is only for yourself, not her. / – That’s right. You’re doing it to make yourself feel better. I beg of you to think of another way no matter what. Roy was here a few times, but he was most upset today. Out of the four times I was on Hello Counselor, this is a worry I don’t need to think twice about. I don’t think he’ll be on the show again. He swore in English so many times just now. (He’s joking.) Dongyeop, did you understand those? (Roy thinks it’s a worry!) Everyone, if you empathize with her, press the button. (What does the audience think?) – In five, four, / – In five, four, – three, two, one. / – three, two, one. Stop pressing it. You can only press it once. Say a few sincere words to your daughter. Dokyung, you know I love you more than anyone. I tell you that several times a day. I say, “thank you” to you every day. I’m upset that you don’t know how I feel about you. – She’s upset. / – Why would she be upset? (Sighing) – What is that? / – Why is she upset and not sorry? – It’s not “sorry”. / – My goodness. – I thought she’d say sorry. / – She’s upset. – Unbelievable. / – I can’t believe her. – I’m really thankful to my mom and dad. / – Go ahead. If you really don’t want to do it, let’s talk after the show. I love you. (We look forward to hearing a good change.) Her mom… What she said about being upset because Dokyung doesn’t understand must be right. She must really love her. But the thing is, even though Dokyung knows, you didn’t express your love for her. You must behave in a way that she can feel your love so she’ll know. You’re both misunderstanding a bit. I wonder how many votes her story got. Show us the result. Please. (The last digit is eight.) I don’t think she’ll change. Is it 198? I think it’s either 178 or 168. – 168 votes? / – 178 votes. – Is it 178? / – She got168 votes. (Her story got 168 votes.) Who didn’t press the button?