Have you guys ever gone to a wedding and felt like the couple needs to
say I don’t instead of I do? If so, you’re not alone, because according
to a survey conducted by weddingwire.com, 27% of the people they polled said they have attended weddings even though they
thought the marriage was a mistake. So ladies, speak now or
forever hold your peace. Would you ever attend a wedding
you didn’t approve of?>>No! And guess what? I don’t want nobody at my wedding
that doesn’t approve of it. That isn’t sending good vibes and
good energy and good love. Now I will say this, there is
a difference between I approve of this, and between thinking are these
people going to last forever? Are they soulmates? Do I think they’re the perfect couple? And I think this is utterly
a wrong mistake, I don’t approve. When they go to say speak now or forever
hold your peace and I can’t hold my peace, I shouldn’t be there.
>>[LAUGH] [APPLAUSE]>>If this person has been awful to her, then I’m not attending no wedding
that I don’t approve of [CROSSTALK]>>In my case, I’ve had examples where I’ve had
friends that had destination weddings, and I’m like, I’m not about to spend all
this money to go see you get married, and I know it’s not gonna work out. That’s what I’m talking about, if I don’t approve of it,
I’m not spending my money, extra money. Now, if it’s local, yeah, I might go.
>>But that’s even different saying like, I don’t think it’s gonna last which hey,
they might end up being 25 years together and then you regret not being there.
>>No, what I have to say is the two people and they know who they are,
are currently not together. So I was right.>>[APPLAUSE]
>>So that’s it.
>>Did you go?
>>I didn’t go.
>>Okay, so yeah.
>>You didn’t go.>>Interesting.>>I don’t.>>How did they handle you->>Cuz a wedding is supposed to be a support.
>>Yes.>>I have a question, though.>>That’s the reason why you invite people.
>>I have a question though. Were any of these people
really close to you guys?
>>Yeah.>>So how did they handle you saying you’re not gonna go?
>>They just had to handle it.>>[LAUGH]>>Mine was different. I went to a wedding that it wasn’t
that I didn’t approve of it, do I think that they’re soulmates and
they’re gonna last forever? That’s my opinion, my opinion is
different from disapproving and being like I don’t stand by this,
I don’t agree with it, I think it’s wrong. Two different things. Now granted, if they go on and
are married for the next 30 years, I’m gonna be so happy and now if I
didn’t go, I would have regretted that. Does that make sense?
>>Okay.>>You got to trust people’s free will, just because I don’t agree with it, and I
don’t maybe see the sparks that they feel, that’s just my opinion, that’s not right.
>>[APPLAUSE]>>One thing I’ve definitely learned after going through a divorce,
and being where I’m at now, I’ve taken more seriously the attending
of a wedding, and what I mean is this. Yes, it’s a party, yes, it’s something
where you collect the favors, you throw the bouquet, but it’s
actually something much more symbolic. You are about to make history with that
couple for the rest of their life. And when I look back now, when I was
going through hardship and our marriage really needed the community that holds
you down, talks you off the ledge. And just supports you and
mourns with you, I look and I see those true people out there. You guys are really out there, the ones
that stood by me in my wedding, and really stood by me in life. Those are the people you
want in your wedding.>>That’s awesome.>>That’s sweet.>>Because you’re supposed to be witnesses.
>>Yes.>>That’s what the guests are, they’re witnesses to a covenant
that you’re making with God.>>Makes you think twice the people you invite.
>>I don’t know, I’m on the fence with this because I
feel like sometimes there are lessons that people have to learn on their own.
>>Exactly.>>And if it was a close friend of mine, and we had a conversation,
I’m gonna be 100% honest with you. But at the same time, if she really wanted
me there, I would silently support her. I wouldn’t feel good in my soul
not attending her wedding. I do know a person, you guys,
who did this to a friend. She did not approve of her friend’s
wedding, she didn’t go, and actually, she’s the one who got divorced and
her friend actually was at her wedding. So sometimes, did you follow me there?
>>Yeah, kinda sort of.
>>Kinda sorta, okay.>>It was the opposite.>>It was the opposite.
>>Yeah.>>What I’m saying is sometimes->>Her marriage didn’t last. Sometimes we don’t know. Maybe you may not approve and hey, they really love each other and
they’re gonna work it out. And that’s what happened
with my friend’s couple. They’re still together.